There is a distinction between being a client and being a submissive. For some people, there is no obvious distinction between the two words at all, leaving them wondering what it all means. My subs however, know the difference very well, having earned their place at my feet.
I have both clients and subs in my stable. Both parties are cared for and respected in my eyes, the distinctions between them do not change this, nor does it change the way I care for them.
So, let me clarify for you what this means to me. After all, you’re not reading this because you are solely curious about what the sentence means, you want to know what it means for you and therefore what you mean to me.
A client is someone that I see on a regular basis or may see every now and again. All of the logistics in terms of how I may prepare the session are the same. The conversations we have before, my professionalism and care for you and your desires do not change. What distinguishes a sub from a client however is how we spend that time both during but especially after the session. Of course no one necessarily starts off with the intention to become my submissive, though I know a lot of you do. It is something that can only happen if we click, grow a rapport with one another and enjoy each other’s company. For someone to become my submissive, it is extremely important to me that I like you. I like your conversation, the way we interact, you as a person.
If I do not like you, you will never truly become my submissive, it’s as simple as that.
There are however ways to become my submissive. This obviously comes with time, patience and effort. So, the real question boils down to, how do you become my submissive and do you have what it takes?
Firstly, as I mentioned, communication skills are important. This is in the sense that if we are to converse with one another, I want to be able to get to know you. Not just a façade of how you are to the world- though I do understand that this can take time. I want someone who can be open with me, who makes the effort to confront themselves and be truly naked in front of me and not just literally ;)
Time. This may seem obvious, but if I only see you sporadically, how are we meant to grow a rapport? We do not, it’s as simple as that.
Of course, my 6 most important virtues in a submissive are important, but that should go without saying.
Effort. If I see that you are trying to become a helpful, positive force in my life, this can only bode well for you. Effort can come in many forms, whether that is offering to do my groceries, buying a gift for me every now and again or finding other ways you can be useful to me. Being proactive is important. I won’t spend my days thinking up tasks to give to you, think of ways you can be useful to me then ask and offer.
At some stage, if you wish to make that leap from being my client to my submissive, we will want to meet outside of the session setting. You may enquire, however note that I do not see my clients outside of a session setting until I decide you are ready, this is assuming of course that I even want to. This could be driving me back home one day, or going to the grocery store with me (yes, the grocery store!) or a lunch date. For me, it is highly important that I enjoy your company and if I do not, it does not matter how much cash you push my way, if I don’t want you, I don't want you. No amount of begging will change my mind, only hard work and effort to make me see how good you can be for and to me will.